Recently I wrote this article on the World CARP Romania Blog:
I would like to tell you a story about what we like more than everything…Love.
Well maybe not in the form you usually are used to it. There are so many definitions; some are romantic and others more real…and most just dumb 
I have personally tried to define it several times, each time I tried in a newer, fresher and clearer form.
Well what we can surely say is that…love is universal. We all want it and more important we all need it. Even before our conception love is required and it shapes our life continually and drastically.
Form the lack of love we tend to go astray and look for it in wrong places. Because of immature love we denigrate the value of love and give it mediocrity. Few of us can say that have really loved and fewer had that love returned, but what it is important is to realize that no matter what circumstance we encounter it, it 100% changes us for the better or for the worse.
In all my trails of describing it and giving it depth, always one aspect was important: our ability to offer ourselves to another person must be made without becoming dependent on that person (it is not a power struggle, it gives respect and trust and you don’t feel empty without the other person). You don’t get crazy if you don’t see him or her for some time.
Peace is the natural state we long for and therefore it is also the state that love must feel also, because love is the external expression of our peace (external at the level of interacting with others). Where there is conflict inside there is no durable and honest love on the outside.
Conflicting/tormented/confused/selfish heart and mind cannot express love because in themselves they express love in the form they know-conflicting/tormented/confused/selfish. It is like a poison that affects our ability to reason, to feel, to will and renders us incapable of perceiving reality and others correctly.
The peace between our mind and body, thoughts and actions, plans and reality are for each and everyone at different levels and this peace gives us the quality of our ability to coexist with others. What that peace is, how you meet it and where does it come from? Do you have an answer?
decembrie 9, 2009
tudmar
1 răspunsuri la “A realist perspective”
Antonia
februarie 24th, 2010 la 19:53
I really like how you choose your subjects first of all ☺ I agree with the fact that we are able to love when we are balanced and independent, in other words: self-fulfilled. But how do we fulfill ourselves, be in peace with ourselves with others and with God? The thing is that I believe that we don’t have the capability to love unconditionally and unselfish by ourselves , meaning to truly love. But we can borrow this wonderful capacity and learn how to love from God, which is Love itself. Love is the interactive nature of God, which is manifested by His relation with his creatures, sons and daughters, and was purely expressed through Christ like it says in the verse: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” (1 John 4, 7-12) Regarding how do we achieve peace, I believe it is also through Jesus: “Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ: By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.” (Romans 5,1.2) “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid”.(John 14, 27) So I believe that by knowing God through Jesus in His word( the Bible) I am able to know some important things about God, His Love and Peace and how to obtain them > When looking at Jesus, concepts such as Love and Peace are not abstract anymore. Because I understand that “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” So I know that love means self sacrifice, the ultimate sacrifice and self-denial and I have a perfect model for that: God manifested in Jesus, as His living Word. Finally I think Love implies faith, knowing God and practice .Faith because you don’t always “feel” that love which you know that God would manifest it, but you act by faith in God, doing what you believe is right and having faith that He will change your feelings and give you a new heart.